Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Promotion

Splitting time between Pre-K and 1st grade has been very useful for any number of reasons. Among others, it gave Elena the chance to see bigger kids in action, and it gave her teachers the opportunity to give her more specialized attention. There was a massively huge problem, though. By moving back and forth, she was missing both classes' recess times. For three weeks, she was expected to sit still for classes with kids two years older than her, without the benefit of burning off some serious extra energy. The next thing we know, she's acting up in the cafeteria and rolling around on the floor in class. Mrs. Sr and Mrs. B, the Pre-K teachers, talked with Ms. St, the 1st grade teacher, and saw that it just wasn't working. They then approached the principal and discussed at length what would be best for Elena. They presented us with two options: 1) she could stay in Pre-K and would be given extra responsibilities, acting much like a student-mentor for the other kids, while the teachers did their best to give her the challenge she needed; or 2) she could move up to Kindergarten, splitting the difference between her age and abilities, where the work would be more difficult, but wiggling and playing were still expected (and even encouraged).

It was a big decision, for us. If we left her were she was, there was the risk of boredom and fatigue. If we moved her up, she'd be moving into a whole new age group. It would be a premanent move, too--no "testing it out" or "seeing how she does," here. It would effect the rest of her life. Desperate for some shred of hope to cling to, I reached out to the thought of Elena's cousin, Bridget. They both had the same due date, though Bridget is two years older than Elena. Through the happenstance of fate, though, Bridget was born a preemie and made the September cutoff for Kindergarten, when she turned five. Had Elena been a preemie, too, she would have been on the exact same academic track Bridget took, two years ago--youngest in the class, but delightfully brilliant. This was what I needed. If Bridget could flourish and thrive as the youngest kid in the class, so could Elena.

So, this morning I got Elena up and took her to school for breakfast, as usual. But instead of lining up with 1st grade, where she had been going for morning reading time, or heading to the gym with Pre-K, she was going to her very first day of Kindergarten. I got to walk her to her room and watched as another girl showed her where to hang her backpack. I saw that the tape on the floor had been redone so that she would have a place to sit with her class. I closed the door and peeked through the window just the tiniest bit. I wanted to stay, to make sure she would be OK, but it was time to go. I walked home in a bit of a daze, wondering what she was doing. Somehow it was more nerve-wracking than the first time I left her at school, only 10 weeks ago. Then, it was merely odd that I wasn't the center of her universe, with her nearly every waking moment of her life. Now, I worried about her being the odd duck, catching up with classwork, making friends again, and a thousand other adjustments.

At the end of the day, I suppose I shouldn't have worried so much. Elena bounced down the sidewalk with me, shouting "I love Kindergarten!" and telling me all about going to PE and how she gets to go to art, tomorrow, how they counted to 51 in Spanish, and the picture they colored when they got back from the playground. Responses to questions about Pre-K had usually been short and you'd really have to dig to find out what she did, but here she was bubbling with stories.

The first day of Kindergarten was a roaring success. I hope the rest of the year is, as well.

1 comment:

Regan said...

Oh, this must be why you called the other day! Sorry I missed you. I'm not sure what advice I could've given, though--you seem to have made a good decision! Elena has an advantage over Bridget because Bridget is so tiny, so that should help her out. I think Bridge really has a hard time being smaller than everyone else, even though she can match them academically. Good luck!